And Still More
Regarding Uncle
Claude Argata Enkey
(May 22, 1902 – September 27, 1981)
by
Wally Lee Parker
(All rights to this
material reserved by the Enkey-Parker Family History Newsletter)
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Reprint from the Enkey-Parker
Family History Newsletter
September/October, 2000 A.D.
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… a letter from Zona Enkey-Siler on growing up in Oklahoma …
In
the last week of June, 2000, I received this letter from Zona Siler.
Eight typewritten pages, and some
amazing stories.
Hi Cousin,
Although we've never met, I hope by
the time you've read this you will feel that we have — as I have, by reading
the wonderful pages of family history that you have put together. This is a work that is very much needed and
appreciated. I'm sure by all of us. Thank you!
My name is Zona Marie Enkey. I am the third child (second daughter) of
Claude Enkey and Olive Freeman-Enkey. I
was born at Liberty, Oklahoma, on March 3, 1931. My parents, Claude and Olive, lived in Leach,
Oklahoma, at that time, but they had traveled by wagon to Liberty so I could be
born at Grandma Freeman’s house, by the county’s only (that I know of)
midwife. Everyone called the midwife
Granny Hicks. No relation to us though.
When I was thirteen days old the
folks moved to a 160 acre farm they’d bought at Peggs, Oklahoma. It was the old Doolin place, and was known
all over the country to be haunted. And
believe me, it was!!!
I can remember waking up one night and
there was an old man sitting in a rocking chair at the foot of my bed — rocking
back and forth. Not saying a word. Just rocking.
In reality we didn't even have a
rocking chair.
The old house consisted of a living
room, a kitchen, and one attic room. The
living room doubled as a bedroom for Mom and Dad. Their bed was set up in the middle of the
room. We six kids slept in the attic
room.
This attic room had one window in
the south wall. I can remember waking up
many nights and seeing a huge spider web covering the whole window, and a dead
man lying across the window — stuck to the spider web. I would start crying and try to wake the
other kids. They would tell me to hush
and go back to sleep. They thought I was
just imagining things. But I wasn't. I am sixty nine years old now, and I remember
it as if it were yesterday.
Dad never believed in ghosts. He wouldn't accept anything like that. So I was afraid to tell Mom and Dad about it.
Dad said there was a logical
explanation for everything if you just looked hard enough. He had heard of this house being haunted, but
refused to believe it. He always said
that the weird noises could be explained if one just looked hard enough to find
the answer. Well, I looked for sixteen
years and never found the answer.
During W. W. II — I was twelve years
old (1943) — Mom was working in Tulsa making tents for the military. One night Dad had gone to Uncle Earl’s house
and had left me home to take care of my younger sister, Alzada, four years old,
and my younger brother, Sam, six months old.
He was gone and gone. Finally,
when it got dark, the weird noises started.
I stood it as long as I could, then I gathered up the little ones and
went outside. We huddled in a corner by
the chimney for a while, and then I decided to walk to Uncle Earls to find Dad.
Uncle Earl lived
about two and a half miles from our house.
I was carrying Sam and leading Alzada by the hand. It was pitch dark out — dirt roads and no
lights. We walked north about the
distance of three city blocks to the main road, then turned west toward Uncle
Earls. There were trees — a very wooded
area — on the south side of the road, and an open field on the north side for
about half a mile. Then it changed to
thick trees on the both sides.
Out from the trees on the South
side, glowing in the dark, came a bright orange ball. It hung in the air about three or four feet
off the ground. It scared the wits out
of me. I stopped and just stood there
for a few seconds. It seemed like five
or ten minutes. I was afraid to go
toward the ball, so I started stepping backwards. Every time I took a step backwards, it would
move toward me. If I decided to venture
a step forward, the thing would move backwards.
We kept moving back and forth like that, it keeping the same distance
from me, for about ten or 15 minutes, till it finally just flew off into the
wooded area on the north side of the road.
To this day I don't know what it
was. But I know it was something with
intelligence. Alzada says she can remember
it too.
Well, enough of my ghost stories.
My father, Claude Enkey, was a
farmer, just as his father, David Enke (prior to the added ‘y’), had been a
farmer.
Aunt Mabel, Claude's sister,
recalled when the family moved from Carthage, Missouri, to south west Oklahoma
— to Pottawatomie County — by covered wagon.
They were camped in the woods for the night, and Grandpa David had gone
hunting to get food, when a wild bear climbed in the wagon with the
family. It nearly scared grandma and the
younger kids to death. But Claude and
Oscar finally managed to get the bear out of the wagon.
Aunt Mabel also told me the story of
how Grandpa David and Grandma Pearl met.
Pearl had gone to the creek to get a bucket of water for her mom, when
David rode up on his horse. He stopped,
got off, and said, "Here little lady, let me carry that for you.” At that moment Pearl said to herself,
"That’s my man.”
Another story, this one about after
they were married, David was in the field plowing. Pearl dressed up like a man — disguising
herself. She walked to the field, and,
changing her voice, talked to grandpa for several minutes before he realized
who he was talking to.
My dad told us that David Enke was
an exceptionally strong man. Once when
the family was out on the road in the wagon, four or five men rode up on their
horses and started using bad language.
Grandpa David told them not to talk like that in front of his wife and
children. The men told him he’d have to
make them. He invited them to climb off
their horses, saying he would. They did
and he did — whipped them all and sent them on their way.
My parents said that Great Grandpa
Enke and Great Grandpa Lee fought on opposite sides in the civil war, so they
didn't care much for the other. Dad told
Mom (who then related the story to me) that when Great Grandpa Lee would go to
see the kids — David and Pearl — if Grandpa Enke's horse was tied up out front
of the house, Grandpa Lee would ride off and come back later. And if Grandpa Enke rode up and saw Grandpa
Lee's horse tied to the hitching post, he would ride by and come back later.
I think Dad was 19 or twenty when Grandma
passed away. Then, a short time later, Grandpa
passed away. The older kids kept the
family together for a while, then some of the girls went to stay with an uncle
in Texas. Dad and Oscar worked the crops
and the girls kept house. Dad told us
that Mrs. Grimes taught him how to make biscuits.
Mom told me that she and Dad met at
a dance. Dad loved to dance and went to
them real often. Mom was a school
teacher, very reserved and proper, seldom went anywhere. Her younger sister, Opal, was more out-going.
One night Opal wanted to go to the neighborhood
dance. Their dad, Grandpa Freeman, let
her go — but only if Olive went to keep an eye on her. As it turned out, Mom was the one who caught
a boyfriend that night.
Dad was a very handsome man, and he
inherited his father’s strength. He was
always showing off. But Dad hadn’t had
any formal education. So when he got
married he wasn't sure of the correct spelling for his last name. Mom spelled it the way it sounded — Enkey. Later, after meeting some of Dad’s aunts and
uncles, she learned Enke was the correct spelling. But since the marriage license said Enkey,
they went and kept that spelling. And
all the other kids in David and Pearl’s family kept that spelling too. All the family outside of Oklahoma uses the
original spelling of Enke.
The Clem Freeman that married our
Aunt Goldie, he was my mother’s first cousin.
Goldie's children and Claude and Olive’s children are double cousins — first
cousins on Claude and Goldie's side and second cousins on Olive and Clem's
side.
Times back then were hard. It was during the depression — the dust
bowl. If you didn't dig your living out
of the ground, you didn't eat. It made
young people old, pleasant people mean, and it didn't take many years to do it.
One of my first memories is of Dad coming
in from town and telling Mom that they had to get rid of all but (I believe) 10
head of cattle. The government, trying
to get the economy under control, had ordered farmers to either kill off or
practically give away any and all of what they had over that amount. Mom and Dad had been saving and enlarging
their herd in order to have enough to sell and pay off their home. This was quite a blow to them. And they were not even allowed to keep the
meat for food.
I was too young to remember all the
details, but I remember that all the neighbors were upset about it. Everyone was having a hard time putting food
on the table. In my early school years
some of my friends only had water bread and water gravy to eat for breakfast,
lunch, and dinner.
My dad was a very hard worker, and
expected no less from each of us. I
remember working in the fields just like a man, seven days a week, daylight to
dark, through the long, hot summers.
This went on year after year until I was 17 years old and left home.
I have the utmost love and respect
for my parents. We always had plenty to
eat. Milk, cornbread, and my Mom’s good
biscuits. We canned approximately five
hundred quarts of fruit, berries, and vegetables every year. Dad worked our tails off — but he’d been
hungry in his lifetime and wanted his children to have plenty of food.
While other men were running whiskey
stills to make cash, our dad was running a sorghum molasses mill.
Dad was known all over the country
as being an honest, upright man of his word.
I don't think anyone ever challenged him at anything — not if they had good
sense anyway.
We kids had to walk five miles on
the roads to get to our grade school, but only three if we cut over fields and
through woods. Dad made us take the
short way so we could get home to start our chores sooner. And all too often we had more excitement than
we wanted walking that way.
Some of our distant neighbors were
well known whiskey makers. Two or three
times a week several, maybe six to ten men, all drunk, would gather on the dirt
path to play poker. Then when we came
along they would chase us. Most of the
time they’d chase us on foot, but sometimes they would load in their pickup
trucks and, as they drove by, the ones standing in the back would jab at us
with their pocket knives. Needless to
say, we were terrified.
We would have to jump ditches, dart
in and out of the woods, and every other thing we could think of to escape.
We would tell Mom and Dad about it
over and over, but it was such a wild story they didn't believe us. They thought we were making it up so we would
have an excuse to walk the road with the other neighbor kids.
This went on for two years. Then, one day, the gamblers got carried away
and chased us close enough to a neighbor’s house for her to see what was going on. She went on a run to tell Mom and Dad. That evening, after the chores were done, Dad
got on his horse and rode off. We asked
where Dad went and Mom said he had gone to tell those men that he would be
following us to and from school, and the first man he caught chasing his kids
would be a dead man. It never happened
again.
I didn’t believe he really intended
to follow us. Then, one day …
On our way to school we had to cross
several creeks. It had been raining and
snowing enough that the creeks were near flood stage. The foot logs over the creeks were
slippery. I was about seven years old at
the time, and when we got to the first foot log I just stood there crying,
afraid to cross. One of our neighbors
came, picked me up, threw me over his shoulder and carried me across. Slung over his shoulder, I looked back, and
high on a wooded bluff overlooking the creek stood my dad, hunting rifle under
his arm. I never doubted his word again.
In those days we country kids didn't
have toys. We’d make up games to play
during our lunch time, or on rainy days.
One game was follow-the-leader.
Our oldest brother, Lon, was always the leader.
One time he climbed out on a tree
limb, jumped off, and we followed. When
I hit the ground my knees came up, hit my chin, and caused me to bite through
my tongue.
Another time it had been raining so
much we couldn't work the fields. We
decided to go down to the creek, to our favorite swimming place. And as usual, we were playing the follow the
leader. Even though it was flooding, my
brother Lon decided to swim the creek. I
wouldn’t follow, but my younger brother Bill decided to try.
He dove in, and the water carried
him down stream until it took him under an overhanging tree branch. He caught hold of the limb, and hung on until
Lon could swim down and get him. We went
home and changed into dry clothes. Mom
and Dad never knew anything had happened.
They just thought we were wet from playing in the rain.
On Saturdays Dad and Mom would hook
up the wagon, pick up any neighbors that wanted to go, and drive into Tahlequah
to buy staples, — flour, sugar, coffee, and such — things we couldn't grow on
the farm. Dad would assign us work to do
while he was gone. We’d work like crazy
to get finished and have some play time before they came home.
One Saturday we climbed the
persimmon trees and sat up there like monkeys eating persimmons. For some reason, maybe the limb broke, Lon
fell out of the tree and hit his head on some rocks below. He was out for quite a while. We thought for sure that he was dead. Needless to say, we were forbidden to climb
the trees when the folks were gone.
I learned early in life that it
never pays to brag on yourself. I was
about five or six we were walking home from school — walking cross an open
field — and I was saying to the other kids that if a wild bull came along I
would just knock him in the head with a rock and keep on going. I hadn't much more than got the words out of
my mouth when here came an old bull, bellowing, pawing dirt, acting mad. I was the first one up a tree. To this day, I haven’t lived that down.
My dad made sorghum molasses until
he died. After the juice was squeezed
out of the stalks, the pummys, as the stalks were called, were piled up in rows
six to ten feet high and left to dry.
They were winter feed for the cows and horses.
It was a big no-no to climb on top
of the rows — to run races to see who could stay on the longest without falling
off. So guess what one of our favorite
Saturday games was — when Mom and Dad were gone.
When World War II broke out,
everyone, including the children, started taking life more serious. Dad started working at the powder plant in
Pryor, Oklahoma, and did the farming on weekends. Later on he and my older sister, Opal, who
was sixteen at the time, went to work at a foundry in Tulsa. Later Mom also went to work — making tents
for the military.
Both of Mom’s brothers were in the
army overseas. I was twelve years old at
the time, and became the family babysitter.
At one time I was babysitting five kids, all under school age. My wage was $2.50 per week. I saved my money until I had $15.00, then I
bought some pigs. I figured I would
become a financial whiz with my hog business.
I don't remember what happened to my hogs or my money.
I guess you can tell I was quite a
tomboy and would fight at the drop of a hat.
Once when I was in grade school a neighbor girl threw a rock, and cut a
big gash in my head. I picked up a whole
lap full of rocks and threw them at her all the way till she ran in her front
door. I guess those Enke genes just kept
on flowing.
As I read Aunt Lillie's story of her
growing up years, it reminded me so much of my own child hood. Yes, life was rough. But we had experiences that would help us
through a lot of hard times, when others would probably fall. And I for one would never want to go back to
the "good ole days".
In 1947 my maternal grandfather,
Sam Freeman, passed away. And we moved
to Hulbert, Oklahoma. Then in 1948 I got
married and moved to Muskogee, Oklahoma.
I worked at the same Swift meat company that one of your other relatives
worked at.
I didn't get to be around Aunt
Lillie much as I grew up. I guess she had already moved away. I did get to meet her in 1987 at the family
reunion in Hulbert, Oklahoma. And I had
a nice, long telephone talk with her a few weeks ago. I know I missed a lot by not being around
her. I feel we’re kindred spirits.
I live in Wagoner, Oklahoma
now. I moved here in 1989, and brought Mom
here to live with me until she died, January 30, 1998 — at the age of 94.
I have three children. A boy named John — retired from the Navy and
living in Pennsylvania; a daughter, Linda, living in Wyoming; and my youngest
daughter, Brenda, and her family, lives with me in Wagoner. I adopted 3 boys — Joey, Robert, and
Justin. And I've cared for so many
foster children I've lost count — thirty five or forty the last time I tried to
put a number on them.
If I don't hush and get this in the
mail you’ll never get it. Hope you enjoy
reading this as much as I have enjoyed writing it. Give my love to Aunt Lillie, and sure wish we
could visit face to face in the near future.
Love Always,
Your Cousin Zona
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